#YayaProblems on a Monday morning! Not a rant though.. just a reminder sa lahat ng amo on how to deal with Yaya with less stress on us!
OCD attack on a Monday morning is no good. Must unsee my kids’ closet! But it’s so haaaard! The hangers were hooked in different directions! #YayaProblems
I have told my helper, not just once, how my kids’ clothes should be hang. All clothes facing left, she did it right this time…uhhhm not that right actually. As I have said, hangers were hooked in different directions. WAIT! Before I turn into a boszilla.. have I told that her that all hangers should be hooked in one direction. I guess I didn’t! Oppps! My bad!
Now, how to tell the Yaya about this?!? Obviously, I must not say that it was her fault or that she’s wrong again this time. I guess I will just admit that I forgot to specify that all hangers should be hooked in the same directions.
Which leads me to ask you, how do you communicate with your Yaya/ helpers?
How do you tell your Yaya that she can’t use your utensils (specially the one used by kids)?
In my case, I tell them right away that I will buy their own utensils. Still awkward for me to that. I felt like I’m discriminating them but I realized, eh I have kids to protect no. But I don’t tell it that way. I just tell them na baka mahawa sila sa mga kids in case may sakit ang mga bata.
Next time, I know na what to do.. buy a set of utensils before hand and give it to the yaya as soon as she arrives.
How do you tell your Yaya to dress appropriately?
Buy her a uniform!
It didn’t work out for me that way. My stay out usually wears pambahay when working (pambahay like sando and shorts shorts). I told her not just once that she should change to something more decent.. she’d always complain about the weather (eh mainit daw). Finally, I told her that she can only continue to work for me if she will change the way she dress. And it worked!
I’d still go for uniform though..
How do you tell your Yaya that she can’t use your Pantene 3MinuteMiracle or anti acne soap?
This was a story told to me by a friend, her Yaya using her imported soaps! GASP!
My tactic is to ask the yaya what brands she uses and include it on our grocery list. Next time, I will also ask what’s her laundry soap brand and if she uses a fabric conditioner (#syalaproblems). The best thing to do is buy her a month’s supply and tell her it’s for one month na.
How do you tell your Yaya that the Joy you brought is for a month and not just a week of washing dishes.
My recent #YayaProblem (aside from the closet thingy LOL). I discovered that the 600ml Joy I bought one week ago is almost empty! Eh pang 1 month supply namin yun! I guess I need to re orient my helper about the supplies here in our house.
Lastly, how do you tell your Yaya that her day off is not an extended vacation?
Err I don’t have any advice on this one. I choose not to stress myself over the fact that my yaya usually go home on Saturday night and comes back Monday morning. Kaya ko naman ng wala sya kahit paano.. tambak na lang hugasin sa lababo hehehe
When it comes to helpers talaga, you really need to be very very specific no? Like you just don’t tell/ explain the step by steps of how things should be done. You need to elaaaaaboraaaate.. Step1.1.a and then go to Step 1.1.b tapos tsaka pa lang sa Step 1.2.a
How about you?!? Any #YayaProblems and #HowToTellYaya recently?
Lady Anne Louise Barrun says
January 25, 2016 at 9:29 amWe never had a yaya and I have never thought that this is how difficult to have one. I am too afraid to hire a helper. Not just me but my family, also we can’t afford. Hehehe. Sana umok na lahat senyo ng iyong yaya.
Mommy Pehpot says
January 25, 2016 at 9:39 amI’m OK naman with my Yaya.. that’s the main point of the story hehe on how to deal with Yaya with less stress on the amo hehe
🙂
May De Jesus-Palacpac says
January 25, 2016 at 9:47 amWe stopped hiring yayas since our nightmarish experience with the last set of yayas. We had some good ones esp with my eldest, but since the 3rd one left, nightmare talaga at Stress Drilon lang ang peg so ‘wag na. I managed.
I agree with the uniform. Meron naman maayos na uniform. Pero okay lang naman magcivillian clothes pag kasama namin, wag lang naman kita ang puwet pag nauubo at hindi makahabol sa bata dahil hindi pala sanay sa wedges niya.
I also used to give a list of basic chores that usually end at 10am if she follows it. I used to do the laundry and take care of my kids even with helper. With the kids, sa labas lang talga sila kailangan kasi when we used to go out, it was because I had to attend to something so I needed someone to look them.
Mommy Pehpot says
January 25, 2016 at 9:49 amYou really to be very specific kumpleto with the list and sample sa mga yaya di ba? If I am not giving birth naku hindi na talaga ako kukuha ng Yaya.. I can manage din (as ling as may dishwasher hahah)
May De Jesus-Palacpac says
January 25, 2016 at 10:10 amYes, and on their first day, I would demo pa. As in they dont clean anything or do anything but watch me how to clean and do things efficiently around the house. Seryoso! Kasi gusto ko by the time the kids wake up, tapos na ang linisan, so throughout the day, minor na lang. dishwashing na lang major. Pag dinner nga, husband ko pa naghuhugas bec our helpers would retire to their rooms at 8pm. Pero yung last set talaga, OMG, sobrang stressful!
Mommy Pehpot says
January 25, 2016 at 10:17 amay ang syala ng helper! Dapat pala pati time of sleeping naka orient din sila no?
dali kwento na ung last helper!
May De Jesus-Palacpac says
January 25, 2016 at 10:43 amNaku, gumawa ng gulo sa neighborhood. Nilusob kami ng kapitbahay. Yun pala eh nagtext sa bagong lipat na lalaki na kajologan sa bahay sa harap namin tapos ang binigay na name eh yung neighbor namin sa tabi namin na may tindahan. Tapos nagsasalita against us sa mga yaya ng lahat ng playgroup ng anak ko. OMG. Di niya nagets na lifetime friends namin sa church ang mga amohertz! Natural, magsusumbong sa min. May victim mentality ba….palaging kinakawawa ang peg. Kesyo kinawawa ng tatay, kinawawa ng dating amo, kinawawa ng tiyahin…ganun. The drama-ness!
Badet Siazon says
January 25, 2016 at 9:57 amRelate na relate ako sa lahat pwera lang sa Joy… haha. Same tayo sa hangers, magkumare nga tayo, pero wala naman akong OCD, maganda lang tignan. Yung isang helper namin dati, ginagamit din pala yung pang skin care ko, katagalan eh mas maganda pa face nya sa akin kasi sya nasa loob lang ng bahay at di naarawan hahaha.
Mommy Pehpot says
January 25, 2016 at 10:18 amnaman! hahahaha
nakakainis kaya ung hangers na sa iba iba nakaharap haha
eh di sana binilhan mo na din ng set ng eskinol! LOL
MrsMartinez says
January 25, 2016 at 10:38 amTo solve all my #yayaproblems, I let all my helpers go haha Yes, all three of them! Now, I am stress-free and wala na din akong pinakikisamahan na ayaw makisama lol
Xoxo
MrsMartinez
berlin says
January 25, 2016 at 11:43 amHahaha. Been there so many times. Now, we do not have any household help. Easier. No tsismis, no hurt feelings, and less gastos plus walang kaagaw sa tv.
For the Pantene 3minute miracle conditioner, si yaya ha, ibang level talaga ha.
Meikah Ybañez-Delid (@Meikah) says
January 25, 2016 at 12:56 pmI am blessed that I don’t have yaya problems… hehe! But you are right… from the onset, we need tell them the rules (and for me, including the part where they can decide on certain things, so they are empowered in a sense). Twelve years later, they (though the older one, who acted as senior had to go home to the province to care for her aging mother) are still as efficient and respectful.
Charley's Mommy says
January 25, 2016 at 2:39 pmThese are some of the nightmares we;re trying to avoid that’s why since kaya pa naman, we’re still okay with not having a yaya yet. My friends also complained of losing stuff (dresses, money, gadgets) only to find out they’re with yaya pala. *sigh*
But if ever we’re gonna have a yaya, not anytime soon I hope, I’m gonna be pretty strict with the uniform, too. I might also impose on the no-taking-baby’s-picture rule. We really have to safeguard our babies and we dont wanna them sharing to social media where we live or going or sharing baby’s pictures. 🙂
Sheila | AB&Me says
January 25, 2016 at 3:28 pmHay naku, same issues. Kagulo damitan ng bagets. Pero gets ko din si Ate coz ang daming damit na pwede na i let go pero hindi ko pa ma asikaso. haha.
Pero bonggels ung extended days off. Day off nga, hindi over night. ang masaklap, halos 2 days, 2 nights ang off? oh well.
Ganun na nga lang din, tambak hugasan. LOLS.
Coi says
January 25, 2016 at 3:29 pmGood thing we don’t have a Yaya haha! Mukhang mas nakaka-stress pa eh! Hahahaha
Joy Mendiola says
January 25, 2016 at 4:29 pmcan’t relate no more, been yaya-free for 8 years! yahoo! it’s really hard to train them, lalo na if talagang matigas ang ulo. we once had a yaya, who smelled like me, yun pala from soap, shampoo, to lotion yun ang gamit pag naalis kami. hahaha. binibilhan ko pa sya ng toiletries nya ha. pag likas matigas ulo, let her go.
Mitchteryosa says
January 25, 2016 at 5:51 pmI tell her straight, sabagay sa tagal na nya sa amin (siya yung 4 years na tapos umalis ng 1 year tapos bumalik, at naka 1 year na ulit hehe!) alam na nya ang preferences ko.
Pero kahit matagal na sya sa amin andami dami pa ding flaws. Si kalimot kasi. Pag kaya ko pa, I deal with it myself, ako na ang gumagawa pero pag paulit ulit na, may award na yun haha! And she knows how it is when I get really upset.
The usual issue namin eh ang paggamit ng phone. Pag ako ang tumatawag kesyo kesyo naiwan sa baba kaya do nya nasagot. Pag iba ang kausap, aba unli call! I lecture her, na kaya mobile phone kasi dapat dala mo lalo na kako pag naiiwan sayo ang mga bata etc etc.
Lol haba ng sago ko!
Liz says
January 25, 2016 at 6:05 pmWe hired a stay out yaya for 6 months last year. We got it from an agency in Baguio since Baguio-based yung baby ko. We didn’t have issue kung pano sya magalaga ng bata since she has kids and apo of her own (mid-40s na sya) pero we had major issues with her tardiness. Agreed time of duty nya was 8am to 6pm Mondays thru Fridays lang since I go home naman din every weekend. However, pumupunta sya sa bahay ng 9am na and sometimes 10am, so nalelate sa work Mom ko kasi kelangan nya hintayin yung yaya. And sometimes, inaasa nya sa sister ko yung duty nya. Sinabihan din namin sya nun na pag d sya makakapasok e magpasabi a day before. Waley! On the day pa din nagsasabi so sira ang schedule. At ang hilig bumali. Though I always remind her that she had to ask that from the agency as per contract. I didn’t renew her contract because hindi na namin sya kayang pagkatiwalaan after all the usapan and agreement nila ng Mom ko. Hopefully the incoming na stay in yaya will be a lot better (crossing all my fingers)…
Sorry, Mommy, napahaba kwento… ?
Mommy Pehpot says
January 25, 2016 at 10:15 pmStay in is a lot better when it comes to schedule eh.. di ba yan din ung stress ko sa stay out.. walang oras ang pasok!
Praying na sana OK na ung nakuha nyong stay in 🙂
Madz says
January 26, 2016 at 8:32 amWe don’t have a yaya because it’a difficult to trust people these days.Sometimes my husband”s cousin just babysits.
celin mendoza says
January 26, 2016 at 8:58 amNaku! Kulang ang isang blogpost sa haba ng listahan ng yaya problems ko haha. I always include our house help’s toiletries whenever we do our groceries and see to it na sa baba lang siya maliligo and not in our room! When it comes to their day off, pag lumagpas ng isang araw, bawas agad sa daily salary nila. Binibigyan ko din ng pang load every now and then para laging nagrereply hmp! And tru sa dishwashing, sinabi ng isang patak lang sa joy, kung makagamit parang naglalaba sa bula. I bought messy bessy’s dishwashing liquid at ako lang ang pwedng gumamit dahil hanggat walang nakikitang mga bula, sige sa buhos.haaay…
Rowena Wendy Lei says
January 26, 2016 at 10:48 amI say whatever it is I want to say straight out lol. Minsan kasi pag pinaganda ko pa eh di gets. XD
TweenselMom says
January 26, 2016 at 12:00 pmGood thing you covered the secrets for yaya success. Ito na yata ang pinaka-malaking dilemma ng mga nanay.
Celerhina Aubrey ★ says
January 26, 2016 at 1:01 pmWe have a part-time baby sitter. And so far, wala naman issues at all. Malapit din sya sa amin so walang issue na pagsabihan kasi parang kapamilya na. But I agree on everything here. Importante kasi na malinaw at nailatag na lahat para walang gray area on you and the yaya.
Louisa says
January 26, 2016 at 8:57 pmI’ve never had a yaya because I wanted to raise my kids myself and I also felt that it was so intrusive having a stranger living with us. However, I know that some families really need yayas. The concerns above seem really hard to discuss.
Mommy Pehpot says
January 27, 2016 at 5:41 amAll my helpers are my own yaya actually haha
I’mvery hands on with the kids pero pag hugasin na, sila na bahala!
Maan says
January 27, 2016 at 7:58 amI can relate to almost everything dito hahahaha! Life is simpler, albeit harder, without household help. When it comes to communicating, I just tell them what needs to be told. Sa uniform naman, ayoko talaga. Unless sila ang nagrequest, di siguro talaga ako bibili
kharla canta says
January 28, 2016 at 10:57 amHi Mommy you can also check out parenting emporium! They actually have classes for Yayas to teach and learn how to communicate with your kids and to you as well 🙂 Hope you guys can check them out! Facebook.com/parentingemporium
Mommy Pehpot says
January 28, 2016 at 7:58 pmThanks Kharla!
Mhaan Arambulo - Delos Santos says
January 30, 2016 at 7:52 amI have our first (and hopefully the last hehe) yaya since May last year. I always make sure I ask her if there are some problem around the house, we have 1 yaya and 1 all around plus her so 3 na sila ay plu s1 boy pa pala so 4 na. Since ex OFW na si yaya ko, nakikita ko sa kanya na alam niya kung san siya lulugar. May edad na din kasi siya 40+ sa sanay na siya sa ganitong set up. Kung may problem ako sa kanya, I try my best to tell her in a nice way para di naman sumama loob niya. Mahirap na kasing maghanap ng trusted yaya ngayon.
Ayi says
January 30, 2016 at 8:41 amHahaha. I can relate :)) As for the utensils, I tell them on their first day na this is what they will use. I also buy them their own mug and glasses kasi ayoko ng may ka-share. Ang arte, I know. I also set house rules at home and teach them tipid techniques and how to budget everything in the house. If hindi nasusunod, I remind them in a nice way. Mahirap magtaray kasi baka mamaya gumanti sa bata. But you’re nice ah. You buy them their shampoo and stuff. Me kasi it’s part na of their sweldo. I had an experience kasi when I did that, nagreklamo pa si Yaya. Ang arte!
I think when it comes to household help, it’s about proper training and talking to them in a nice, respectful manner 🙂
Jackie says
January 31, 2016 at 11:39 pmFor me it honestly depends on the sweldo and the kakayahan of the helper when she came in. Bata ba? Experienced ba? If yes gano katagal? Those sort of questions. Also, if mababa sweldo niya for me iintindihin ko na lang, if medyo mahal sya well that’s a different issue lol 🙂
Shalene Rivera | PurplePieces.com says
February 2, 2016 at 7:47 amYikes! Yaya dilemmas! Sakin, I always tell them straight what I like/dislike. Being frank is I think the best way for them to learn. But of course, I do have my explanations for those reasons.
Denice says
February 6, 2016 at 6:51 pmI haven’t hired a yaya yet for my little one because we decided to keep it within the family. 🙂 We asked my aunt to take of her and we just give her something in return. This one made me feel more secure in leaving her when I go to work.
sarah tirona says
February 8, 2016 at 9:59 amthis brings back so many memories and makes me want to stop looking for a helper again. hahhaa medyo headache sila. we haven’t had help for several years, at first it was because it was so hard to find good help, now parang if someone comes sige,if not ok lang din. i guess you get used to doing stuff yourself.
Mommy Pehpot says
February 8, 2016 at 2:10 pmtrue! specially pag malaki na kids
GST Consultants says
November 9, 2016 at 11:43 pmWhat you’re saying is completely true. I know that everybody must say the same thing, but I just think that you put it in a way that everyone can understand. I’m sure you’ll reach so many people with what you’ve got to say.