Being married for 10 years and being with him for 13 years, I have learned to accept things that I cannot change and learned to deal with him. And yes, after 10 years (which he jokingly said, sampung taong pagtitiis! haha) he already knows how to deal with my temper, my OCD and had developed a huge amount of patience (nyahahaha). It was not as smooth sailing as this a few years back.. it was a rough journey but thank goodness we both hold on to each other.
In our 10 years of being married, I also learned when to shut up and how to be a wife while being a mother. Admit it moms, we have the tendency to take for granted our role as a wife as soon as we became a mom. Who’s to blame? those tiny hands and heartwarming giggles needs our time and affection more than the man of the house who is big enough to feed himself.. ummm quite right but does not work all the time.
Our husband needs us as much as our kids do.. and that goes from picking what shirt he would wear to picking up his shoes when he went home.. OK that’s an exaggeration (to some.. but normal here in my house LOL) but you get me, right?
My husband is a great provider, he works full time and gives us everything we need.. and he’s a very good spoiler! From toys to my whims (ehehe).. The only way I can thank him for being the best husband and daddy is to always make sure that he is happy.
And here are some ways that I do keep my man happy.
Feed him well. His mother and lola cooks very well and it was a challenge for me during our first few years of marriage. I know nothing in the kitchen department. I endure a lot of criticizing from him. He’d ask me how long I cooked the food, how high or how low the heat is, how I chopped the onions etc.. and when that’s how I learned how to cook. Now, even my friends, compliments my food, ayayay (buhatan ng bangko no hahaha). Feed him well by cooking his favorite dishes. Make sure that you know what kind of foods he prefers. Does he like eating breakfast? Does he like breads or pasta over rice (my husband is a rice lover. Does he likes coffee? My husband loves coffee and he usually ask for coffee 3 times every morning. And I always make sure that there’s a cup of coffee waiting for him when he wakes up. He loves eating Pinoy dishes like Kare-kare, mechado, beef stew and the likes so I learned how to prepare those dishes (well except for Mechado). And there were dishes that he likes but I am not fond of cooking.. but I still do cook those, just to make him happy.
Keep him healthy. Aside from feeding him well, I always make sure that he is healthy and have enough energy for the kids. And with four kids excitedly waiting for him, he really needs ENERGY. I rely with Enervon in keeping him healthy and energized as Enervon is a multivitamins that helps adults ensure optimum energy and increased body resistance against common sicknesses. Its combination of B-Complex Vitamins help optimize food into energy, while Vitamin C aids your body’s natural defense.
And he really needs to be healthy and be protected from sickness, josme, kumusta ang kabuhayan pag nagkasakit ang padre de pamilya?
Intimacy Level 100! (may exclamation point talaga no) I think this department is one of the most important in making your man happy. Be as naughty as he wants you to. Explore ladies.. read and research! Huwag ninyong ipagdamot ang katawan nyo sa asawa no.. Make time for him. Date him, go find a nice motel and spend the night with him. I admit it, it’s hard talaga, specially if you have kids.. eh lalo na kame, we have four! So just imagine.. sa gitna ng kasiyahan, may magigising, pag nakatulog na, magigising naman ang isa.. tapos iyong isa naman… tapos iyong isa pa.. by the time na napatulog na silang lahat, waley na.. wala ng gana..
Of course we find ways.. dapat creative! and also our intimacy does not ends from love making. We have ways to make each other feel special. We do “special talk” online or offline. And on my part, I always make sure that I am sexyyah! yihaaay!
Let him be a kid. And yes, after all those intimacy talks, husband is still a kid at heart. So I let him be one. Allowing him to buy his own toys and be childish from time to time. Trust me, if you allow him to buy his stuff, he’d allow you to buy your stuff too (shopping! shopping!)
Lastly, let him be the boss… uh let me rephrase that.. let him THINK he is the boss. Don’t argue with him, say yes if it is agreeable and say OK if it’s not agreeable to you. Men knows the difference between a yes and an OK hahaha
Do you have something to add? Share with us how you keep your man happy!
Tetcha Figuerres says
April 12, 2013 at 8:33 pmGreat tips from the expert, especially on intimacy. Lol! Unlike your husband, my hubby doesn’t like drinking multivitamins; he’s so stubborn!
lalalapatricia says
September 18, 2013 at 10:28 pmHaha natawa ako sa Intimacy but I have to open my mind! My anak na kame haha But still there’s still a kid side of me pa. Kaya!
Franc Ramon says
September 18, 2013 at 10:53 pmI guess it’s always having a point of compromise and yes, feeding a man well also works.
papaleng says
September 18, 2013 at 11:20 pmYou have done your part as wife so well. In a scale from 1-10 I’ll give you 8. If I can add another thing. You can give suggestions but your man will always have the last say.
Garf says
September 19, 2013 at 1:59 amI know how to keep my man happy. I go fishing with him 🙂
Roch says
September 19, 2013 at 8:45 amThank God for giving you a good man. I know you deserve it because you’re a good wife yourself having said all these points. Hehe I’m not yet married but pretty sure all these will be of good help as well when that time comes.
Yamito Uytingco Calamba says
September 19, 2013 at 7:29 pmI couldn’t agree more, and to add, the best way to keep a healthy relationship is a good communication between you two! 🙂
Francis Morilao says
September 20, 2013 at 11:14 amI love the Intimacy part hahaha, it is the time spent together that creates unending moments, kita mo naman Ten years and still growing. God Bles both of you Ma’am
Jo says
September 20, 2013 at 12:04 pmI’m not sure if I am doing it right. I am not a good cook, I am sweet but not 100% maybe. Lol. I agree on keeping him healthy though, just the other day, I bought 2 bottles of multivitamins for him. Btw, is that kare-kare in the picture? That’s my husband’s fave. 🙂
KIM NIEVES(www.kimnieves.com) says
September 25, 2013 at 9:43 amWow you really know how to make your man happy, you are such a great wife! =)