I was about to post something about Sound of Music (I just finished watching it) but some tabs are opened and it is distracting my flow of thoughts (if I have one).. Closing them would be easier, only if I did not have to check each one why it is opened. Checking every tab, I landed on Maria and read on with some of her entries (out of focus attack). Her entry, about being a stay at home mom, reminds me of my house helps experiences.. and something about their responsibilities and all. Being a stay at home is a mixed, a roller coaster ride, experience.. there’s fun, there’s broken wares. There are tears, screams, spilled coffee, cakes, burps, farts. You experience everything toddlers has to offer, and not to mention chores. Then the biggest part of it, is the kid’s safety.. as a mom, you would not want anything to happen to your baby.. I am thinking how hard or big the responsibility of the nannies or helpers are. I mean, kids are left with them and they need to do their chores and still need to take care of the kids.. makes me think that their job is the next best thing to being a mom.. hard work less pay. A little money for lots of love.. this is making me furious.. it is just so feudal! that house workers are paid less.. why? it is because a house work is a woman’s work, a wife’s work.. oh crap with the equality thing.. we can never be equal as long as house helpers are paid less..
breathes.. sips coffee..
For my helpers experience.. oh well I only have two.. and both were not a good experience. The first one, lasted only for 4 months, the second, one month and half.. well, they could not tolerate me. How hard it can be? The were pissed off when I clean, once again, the bathroom that they spend the whole afternoon cleaning. They never liked it when I fold, again, the clothes that they even use tape measures to fold. What can I do? It’s not my fault. It’s the chemicals that working, blame it on my low serotonin level. They did not like it when I am around the house.. They are more comfortable working in an employer free home. I am a STAY at home mommy, what can I do.. Now that we have 3 kids, my hubby insist that we get another helper, to which I say no.. but chores and the kids keeps me away from blogging.. so maybe we’ll hire one again. I will just be busy (and tell the helper I am a WAHM.. they think of you less when you say you’re a stay at home) blogging and leave the chores and the kids to her. TEMPTING.
Chris says
February 4, 2009 at 7:59 amyeah i hear you. i also re-do some of the work here at home. i am not satisfied with the helper's work… sigh…
fedhz says
February 4, 2009 at 5:41 pmAs what boyfriend always say, "if you want something done right, do it yourself"… maybe he meant, if you want something done right your way… ^^I understand you. I also am OC at times. To some, it looks fine, but to me it needs more. So my motto is TO EACH HIS OWN. lolMaybe all you need to do is find a helper who's diligent or is patient enough to understand your moods and your likes/dislikes. You know why they are paid less? Because they don't think. They act as robots… "'day, do this.. do that.." They will only do things that they're told to do, otherwise you'll just see them staring at blank space or is texting. If you want a helper who thinks and has initiative then hire someone who has the same thinking as you or is intelligent enough.. you know.. but you can't since most of intelligent people are in abroad practicing their crafts, so we're left with scraps. lolNo kidding! We were also in search for nanny before and it's really hard to find a decent one. You will always find something wrong with them or vise versa. Maybe we just need to lower our expectations. If you want someone who can do all your work and you'll be at ease, then get your mom. lol.. you know, if only my Nanay and boyfriend get along well, I'll bring her here. Because I know how she takes care of things and I love how she cooks, cleans the toilet, washes clothes, sew my ripped clothes, etc… but she also has negative sides that I cannot live with so it's the same with other nannies and helpers, I guess. You just need to learn to live with them and accept their strenghts and weaknesses.Pero kung tamad talaga, hay wag na!
Melissa says
February 4, 2009 at 7:28 pmI can totally relate to you and the tab thing. I do it all the time! Leave tabs open, come back later with a purpose, and then start going through my tabs! It is amazing how much time it wastes…..
redamethyst says
February 26, 2010 at 7:54 amweee akala ko may sariling article dito si fedhz. hehehe. joke lang. dapat OC din ang kukunin mong helper para mag jive kayo. 😀
Sherry says
March 5, 2010 at 5:06 amI think helper if for big family.
Sherry says
March 5, 2010 at 5:07 amI think having helper we have less privacy. 🙁
niko says
March 18, 2010 at 9:34 amhoy mukhan ok na helper mo ngayon ah
dee says
August 18, 2010 at 6:05 pmmy mom started getting OC to our helpers too when she decided to be a full time stay at home mom. ganito siguro talaga, you'd want the best for your family.
january says
October 22, 2011 at 12:56 amour helpers at home are so efficient kya we treat them like member of our family na + they’ve been with us for years na rin…
Jenny So says
October 22, 2011 at 7:37 amIt will depend on your situation.