Posted: 11 Feb 2011 0 PST
There are tears in my eye’s that’s about to fall.. but I am not sure if I am worth it. My high school friend passed away this morning. It’s not shocking as she has been suffering for years, but it is sad still.. The sadness that was brought about by regret. The regret of not seeing her.. all these years.. I have known about her condition and yet not even once I had the courage and time to visit her..

I wanna cry because I am happy that finally she is resting.. I want to cry for myself, for not having the time to see her. I want to cry because someone dear to me just passed away… I want to cry but my eyes are drying.. I want to cry but I am not worth it.

Every time the Big Bad Blogger article of Margaux Salcedo crossed my mind, I cannot help but sing.. who give love blog a bad name?

The article is about Georgia. She opened a restaurant and was well received by people. She was even featured, her resto, in the same newspaper where the Big Bad Blogger was published. After a time a PR company approached her. Telling her that her sales would increase if she hires them. The PR talk about social media (blog events, facebook and blog reviews). Georgia declined the offer.

Enter Big Bad Blogger.. he came, he ate (or as Margaux puts it “ate like a regular blogger, took pictures with his ginormous SLR”) and he blog (does it mean he is MALE?). The review he did was good.. then the PR firm called Georgia claiming that BBB (as it was nicknamed) works for them and that if G would hire them, more bloggers will write the same good review for her resto.

The price? 120,000 Php a month for a year then lowered to 80,000 PhP (1800+ in USD)* G declined.

A year after, G opened another restaurant, BBB visits again and did the same as he did before (by the way BBB paid for his meal). But this time his review was a scathing one (the description used in the article). The PR firm called once again and claimed that BBB works for the firm and for the same price as the last year’s offer, the firm will make sure BBB retracts his comment about the newly opened resto.

It was not clear if G accepted the offer (but it seems yes as the article mentioned about a dessert launch where bloggers are given lomo cam as freebies.. now go ask around about a certain dessert launch where bloggers are given lomo cam)… or if the post or comment of BBB was retracted.. so it is safe to assume that we are NOT SURE if BBB was really working for the FIRM..

So why all of a sudden this is all about BBB? And was it confirmed by Margaux herself that the blogger is really associated with the firm? Why name the blogger BIG BAD BLOGGER? why not about the firm? wouldn’t you think that the article is a subtle attack to “new media” as Margaux puts it: “But PR firms have caught on. Marketing is no longer limited to tri-media or traditional media, i.e., TV, radio and print. It now also extends to social or new media: a website, a Facebook page, mentions on Twitter, online directories and blogs.” Is this a plot to discredit the new media because it is becoming a threat to traditional media?

It’s just one blogger.. he maybe be Big but there are hundreds of bloggers.. can he be that powerful? but still we are not 100% sure that BBB is working for the firm? But it is clear that the media form where Margaux Salcedo’s article was published was that influential (even my non blogging friends asked about BBB). And clearly, this article made the blogging community look bad.. so who give blogging a bad name?

And oh, for me, it is OK to pay bloggers to attend a certain event. Isn’t it the same as accepting freebies? Afterall, the blogger got his share of expenses too (think about transpo and the worst part, cocktails! gastos na nga, gutom ka pa). And blogging for money is not bad at all.. just make sure that when you write about apples, it is an apple you are talking about and not orange.

pero surely you still want to know Who is Big Bad Blogger? we got clues!

• he IS a male
• he owns DSLR
• he publish his reviews fast

We cannot help it, sooner or later, they would learn the word F or in Filipino, the word P. It is everywhere. Even the movie that won Best Picture from the recent Metro Manila Film Festival is ambiguous with relation to the word P (agree?).

So how do we deal with it? What we should do when we suddenly hear our kids saying the F words or other words that are use for cursing?

I guess the best way to handle this is not to over react. Some parents when they hear their kids say words like that, reacts as if their kids did something terrible. Of course, those words should not come out of our kids mouth, but we do not know where and how they learned it or heard it. So, keep your reaction simple, ask your kid if they know the meaning of it and ask them where they heard it. You have to explain in e very polite way that those words are not for kid’s language. You know how some kids are really clever, they would question you why adults speak those word. And when they learned it from a playmate, that would be really tricky. It would be a bit hard to explain to them why their playmates are saying those words, so in this case, you just have to tell them the meaning of the word and why it is bad.

In every situation with our kids, the key is not to over react, of course except when you have to praise them or proud of them, in that case, be as OA as much as you want.