Don’t be fair to your kids. That is one thing that my mother taught us. Do not treat your kids in a way that you treat them all in the same manner. Kids are very unique from each other. They each need special care and attention. I never believed in the idea of treating the kids fair. In fact when you treat you kids fairly, you are actually being unfair to them. Picture this out, will you treat your five year old clingy daughter the same you would to your 3 year old independent son? Of course not, right?

Kids have different needs. Just like my three boys. When I had my second son, I ignore him most of the time. I tend to give more time to my first born. He is very clingy while my second son is very independent. And no, it never affects their relationship. I am very proud to say that the boys really love each other.

So, how can you treat your kids fair without being unfair? We live to this principle: To each according to his needs and from each according to his capacity. Easy to comprehend guys. You should never expect something from your kids when you know they cannot do it. Give them what they need and what you think is fair to both party. If the other one needs love more than the other, then gladly give it to him.

Life is not fair after all.