The most disappointing phrase I heard is this:
“Matalino naman po ang anak ninyo, mahiyain lang.”
What does it mean? What have I done wrong? How can I make it better for my kid? Or how can I make him be more “sociable”?
I have that kind of problem with my 3rd born. In fact, his shyness overcomes his “intelligence” when he was in pre school. Because he is very very shy, he lost interest in learning. So many changes happened this school year. I guess I mentioned it once how shocked proud we were that he’s finally getting the hang of it. He’s top 6 on his class! Yipeeee!
BUT!
He’s still shy.. his adviser mentioned that his recitations were not that good last quarter (pero top 6 pa rin sya ha!). We still have to work on him being people smart. Slowly, we’re getting there. His teacher said, he is improving a lot. Oh my, I can’t wait for the day that he competes in say, declamation contest (like his Kuya) or anything that would require him to face the crowd. Just thinking about it now, it makes me cry! Siguro pag nangyari ito, kahit anong laruan ang hingin nya sa akin eh bibilhin ko hahaha
Siguro iniisip nyo, bakit ba hindi ako kuntento eh nasa top 10 na nga sya.. why would I want him to be more sociable and less shy. I just want my kids to be smart in every aspect possible. Even DepEd recognizes that excellence is not all about the books.
In fact, DO 92, s. 2009 – Revised Guidelines on the Selection of Honor Pupils and Students states that to determine the top ten (10), pupils/students shall be ranked using the 7-3 point scheme (7 points for academic performance and 3 points for co-curricular activities) as contained in Enclosure Nos. 1 and 2. See? It’s not all about academic performance, co-curricular activities are considered too!
It’s no big deal to want your child to have Multiple Intelligence di ba?
Multiple Intelligence. new words. big meaning.
Let’s to make this as simple as possible.
What is Multiple Intelligence?
It is a theory conceived by Howard Gardner, a professor from Harvard Graduate School. It means to be brain smart, body smart, and people smart.
The theory says that intelligence is not all about academics, areas such as interaction with others and being good at sports or dancing are also intelligence criteria.
It’s a holistic approach in learning and obviously, this is how I want my kids to be. Yes, I choose #MultipleIntelligence.
Next week, I will post some approaches on we teach our 3rd born to be more sociable and be people smart.
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Badet says
October 9, 2014 at 8:32 pmI have the same problem with Gwen. We still have to work on her social skills, ayaw pa rin magpaiwan sa room, huhuhu. Pero mas gusto ko mas mataas yung people smart nya among the other intelligence.
Si Sati, mukhang people smart hahaha.
Mommy Levy says
October 9, 2014 at 9:05 pmI want Ren to socialize more and be people smart too.
Mommy Pehpot says
October 9, 2014 at 10:27 pmmahirap no? yan yata talaga issue ng mga taong more on logic eh.. mahina sa interpersonal.
Maan says
October 9, 2014 at 10:21 pmI grew up thinking that a passion can only be considered intelligent if he’s good at school. But now I believe everyone is actually intelligent; it’s still better though to have multiple intelligence.
Mommy Pehpot says
October 9, 2014 at 10:30 pmwe all grew up in that kind of setting! Aren’t you glad na may mga ganito ng theory?
Grace | A Shutterbug's Lair says
October 9, 2014 at 10:23 pmThis is the reason why I don’t push my daughter to excel in her academics, for I believe she’s people smart. Oh but she’s smart naman din in a way. Just not in to the top 10s or 20s.
Mommy Pehpot says
October 9, 2014 at 10:29 pmevery child/ person is different talaga 🙂
Robin (Masshole Mommy) says
October 9, 2014 at 11:39 pmBoth of my kids seem to be ok socially, but my youngest can be a little bossy sometimes. I like it better than him being shy.
Savannah Miller says
October 10, 2014 at 12:15 amMy 6 year old is really shy, but it never affected his school work. The area we struggling in is sports because he tends to hang back
jem alvarado says
October 10, 2014 at 12:50 amWith my son naman, I think he should be people smart. He is very picky in making friends and also his behavior – he is very moody and jealous.
Letty C. says
October 10, 2014 at 2:34 amMy son was shy around adults, but it seems around his peer he is a social butterfly. His academics are top priority for us and he know it.
Bonnie @ wemake7 says
October 10, 2014 at 3:17 amCan’t wait to see your post for next week. Thanks for sharing.
Erica Brooks says
October 10, 2014 at 5:18 amI think it is good to teach our kids how to be well rounded. It’s great to be book smart but the world is filled with people and you have to know how to deal with them intelligently.
JoAnna says
October 10, 2014 at 5:36 amI remember being shy when I was young, but I feel like playing team sports is what really helped me get out of my shell! I liked that the Multiple Intelligence includes sports as a kind of intelligence as well, there are many ways to show intelligence!
Cheers,
JoAnna
foreverinparadise.net
Andi says
October 10, 2014 at 6:33 amWow so much drama with raising kids! I know parents want to do the best they can, so hard when there is so much pressure. Wishing your son the best of luck!
michele d says
October 10, 2014 at 7:02 amInteresting information! Thanks for your tips!
Nina Say says
October 10, 2014 at 7:40 amI’ve never heard of multiple intelligence before, it really makes sense now that you’ve explained it.
Tanya Coffman says
October 10, 2014 at 7:42 amI never knew there was a coined name to it…but I strive to have all my children multi intelligent too 😀
Nova says
October 10, 2014 at 8:14 amI would say, this happens to my son too. at first he was too shy to mingle to everyone else. I even pushed him but it didn’t work until I just leave it until he was finally the one who step-out and becomes sociable.
Patty says
October 10, 2014 at 9:04 amI have always said there is common sense smarts and book smarts. I’d rather have common sense smarts. It is very important that he be able to deal with all kinds of people.
FamiGami says
October 10, 2014 at 9:50 amWhat is a declamation contest? Why is it so important to be in the top 10? It all sounds so humiliating…
Mommy Pehpot says
October 13, 2014 at 11:44 pmwhy does it sounds so humiliating?
Nicole P. says
October 10, 2014 at 10:04 amI remember the times when my mom and dad were so keen on me being in the honor roll every year, but the problem is that I did not have the guts to approach and do recitations as often too. Don’t worry, your kid will most probably grow out of it, just like me and a few friends that I know of 😀 I love that theory, since it emphasizes on being well rounded instead of being smart in the books. 😀
Amanda @ Adorkablii says
October 10, 2014 at 11:06 amMy son was shy as well but I let him be that way. He was shy and cautious which I was okay with. I knew once he was comfortable he would open up and be social. Now at almost 7 years old he is still shy at first but once he opens up hes a very happy talkative little boy who excels in almost everything he does! Thank you for sharing!
May De Jesus-Palacpac says
October 10, 2014 at 11:07 amOh I’m all about multiple intelligence with my kids. 🙂 I agree with that theory and knowing it has helped us in home schooling our children and appreciating their uniqueness.
Ashley Nicole says
October 10, 2014 at 12:20 pmThere is nothing wrong with wanting children to have Multiple Intelligence. However, we should definitely help them develop their strengths.
Liz says
October 10, 2014 at 2:22 pmso far, i don’t have any issues with my son just yet since he just turned 1 😀 though sometimes, when the thought hits me, i quite worry how his interaction with other kids will be and will he be able to catch up with his academics and all that… too much advanced thinking on my part i guess.. 😀 thanks for sharing this. 🙂
Nile says
October 10, 2014 at 5:00 pmWe only make sure my son knows that he needs to get his homework done and that we know he’s smart enough. He’s #1 in his entire school in their reading program, even over kids 2 grades levels above him. He’s active, and perfect grades. I don’t pressure him to be like this as he has a zest for learning. He actually asked his dad and I to send him to school with workbooks from grade levels above his current level because he got bored at school.
Shyness is something that you may have to deal with for a while. As long as your kid isn’t being bullied, isn’t acting out strangely, and makes some friends, as well as maintain a decent level of grades in school, I don’t think you need to worry.
Ma.Me.Mi.Mommy says
October 10, 2014 at 8:53 pmI really admire those who are both people and brain smart. Hope I can help my kids have multiple intelligence too. 🙂
Danielle says
October 10, 2014 at 11:08 pmDefinitely continue to look into this and push back on the schools. We’ve had similar mis-“diagnosis” which they will never own up to. also, read the book “Quiet.”
Your doing great momma!
Krystal says
October 10, 2014 at 11:23 pmWhat a great concept. I’ve known many people over the years who were either book smart or common sense smart. It’s rare to find both, and if we can encourage that in kids, that’s great!
Touristmeetstraveler says
October 11, 2014 at 12:57 amA lot of people only think that academic intelligence is all that matters, but it isn’t; there are so many more.
Tamika says
October 11, 2014 at 1:31 amI totally agree. Children need all these skills, to become better employee’s or employer’s. This makes each child understand and relate to everyone with these skills.
kristin says
October 11, 2014 at 2:37 amThank you for sharing. I try and let our girl do things on their own for this very reason.
Ann Bacciaglia says
October 11, 2014 at 3:21 amIt can be hard to have a shy child. Encouraging them to join a team can sometimes help bring them out of their shell.
HilLesha says
October 11, 2014 at 4:32 amI can greatly relate, as I was terribly shy as a child, especially at school. My son is the same way, too.
Rebecca Swenor says
October 11, 2014 at 5:31 amThis is a great post indeed. It is information I was not aware. Thanks for sharing.
Emma T says
October 11, 2014 at 8:48 amIt’s so important to be well rounded in learning and experience. I was shy at school, but didn’t really find it a problem with studying as I didn’t care if people thought I was brainy. It helped I did music, dance and sport as well, plus being competitive academically encouraged me to be better than others.
Shiella says
October 11, 2014 at 2:14 pmI guess we are too hard on our kids, we focus too much on improving their academic skills and never observed which of the multiple intelligence they excel for them to hone sana. Thanks for the post.
Chinky Magtibay says
October 13, 2014 at 10:19 amThanks Mommy Pehpot! I’ll await for your next post on how to make one more sociable and people smart! 🙂
Mommy Anna says
October 15, 2014 at 3:45 pmHi my son naman is so active and always nag prisinta sa class in all activities he is four pa lang naman. Hope he would not change when he grow up and in the bigger class. In my own experience I am also shy in class when I become highschool kasi mas madami na :-(.
Louisa says
October 22, 2014 at 8:31 pmI studied multiple intelligence and I believe in it’s principle. Children each have their own intelligence and levels of each kind. It also makes you realize what talents your children have and what can be improved on. Rather than comparing them to other children to see if they are at the same level of learning you’ll focus on what your child excels at and what he needs some attention on.